Kasey's Rambles

So your probably dying to know why I chose this title. Hold your horses people, I’m getting there. Today, for the first time in a very long time, my husband and I had the day off. We spent the morning hours with our oldest, whose on break from College and home visiting! That was amazing in itself. But wait, there’s more. It gets better!!!

Around 2pm. I turned to my husband and said we should do Lunch! We have to take advantage of this time together and not just do grocery shopping. Which is what we were both planning on doing, making our lists in the process. My hilarious husband suggests Charlie’s. I immediately laughed out loud, not meaning too!! Said can we not do fast food, can we go and sit somewhere and eat, really enjoy each other’s company. Our sarcastic banter went on for a minute or two and then off we went.

Mind you, we didn’t go anywhere fantasy. We went to a place right down the street from our home. Called Casey’s. Great name if you ask me, just spelled wrong haha. Anyway, we sat in our regular spot. I say regular when really we’ve only been there a handful of times throughout our 15+ years together. Our table looks out a bunch of windows and we had the whole place to ourselves. It was perfect. We got appetizers, talked, laughed, held hands in between food coming and really just enjoyed being out with eachother. It truly was what the both of us needed.

As a couple who has a ton of history like we do, and a couple who, just recently this year moved back in together after a few separations and figuring out what we wanted in life. We are very busy people. Always on the go. Both full time employees and parents. So our alone time together is very limited, to say the least. Half the time if we do have a little bit of alone time we are exhausted and don’t want to do anything with our time but relax. So for us to get out of the house, together, no kids and just sit and eat and enjoy each other’s company is huge!

It was very refreshing. If I’m being honest, we’ve had our struggles past few months. Just when it comes to parenting and also remember, we just moved back in after years of not living together. So there are a ton of changes happening, rather quickly. I feel for both of us we just got so caught up in our day to day we put our own relationship on the back burner. Not that it needs to be on a pedestal or whatever, but it needs to be up there. Keeping your marriage, your bond, your communication skills with your partner, In my opinion is key to a Happy, Healthy Marriage. I know it’s not going to be perfect. But what is, come on.

My point is, when my parents, or other couples who know what their talking about tell us just how important it is to have date nights, now I know why. I truly believe why it’s important after today. My husband flirted with me today. Held doors for me, (he usually does, but it goes unnoticed, by me) held my hand at the table. He melted my heart all over again today and reminded me why we do the day to day. He is my best friend. He makes me laugh. He protects me and my family. He supports us. Loves us. Etc..the list goes on and on but I know I wouldn’t want to do it with anyone but him. Now I’m rambling and my youngest is pestering me and I am slowly loosing patience.

So to wrap this up, today was the best Monday in Awhile! I got to spend the morning with my oldest, then got to put a little spark back into my relationship with a simple lunch. Spark doesn’t even cover it. I realized, once again, how important the little things are. Little things like making sure to do a Date Day/night with your partner at least once every other week. More if you can find the time. We’re going to start small. See if we can manage two date nights in the next two weeks or three. I will definitely be updating everyone on if we were able to achieve this little yet so important task!!

Time to eat some food and snuggle with my Boys and our Queenie (pitbull) 🐶💓

Till next time…